I know I’m not alone in my experience, I’m very sure there are plenty of other people in my shoes. I knew this would happen. Hell it already had. When you are in a relationship with someone who’s family isn’t from Canada you expect there to be a lot of foreign language talking. My husbands family is Polish and although they can speak English they prefer to speak their native tongue. Understandable, I mean if I was in another country and knew how to speak their language I’d prefer to speak my own native language if others around me spoke English.
But when you go to countless family functions and you only catch the odd word here and there, it gets frustrating. And the way they talk is very… I don’t know how else to describe it other than aggressive. They tend to sound angry. I know it’s common with Slavic languages, but they carry the tone when they speak in English. So a lot of the time I feel like I’m being attacked.
It just get’s irritating after awhile. I feel like no matter what I say or do, it’s not the right answer. And when we get bombarded with questions like “why haven’t you bought a house yet?” or “why are you still renting? It’s a waste of money!” Yes, it may be a waste of money, but there’s no point to buy a house now when I don’t know where we will be a year from now. If I get into the RCAF I could be posted anywhere! So why waste time and money on a house that we may only have for maybe a year?
I can’t explain that to them. They wouldn’t understand. Mainly because they have a very negative opinion on the military. Which is completely understandable considering they all don’t have fond memories of war. But it’s not like I’d be going for infantry. I’m not going to be on the front lines or anything. Only my hubby’s parents know about my military dream. To explain it to the whole family would be a nightmare. And chances are they would make me feel terrible about it all before I had a chance to finish my explanation.
It just seems to feel like every family function they all get amnesia and forget everything that we told them before. Our story as to why we haven’t bought a house yet is “We don’t want to buy a place until we get some other things sorted out.” Which seems to do the trick, but some relatives still like to go on and on about why it’s good to buy a house and blah, blah, blah… I’m really getting tired of hearing the same thing over and over and over. Talk about a broken record.
I’m sorry for this long rant, but when you have just spent 7 1/2 hrs dealing with all this, your head feels like it’s about to explode.